Discovering & Changing Rules of Negative Values

Hi there and welcome to this latest blog post!

Today I want to talk to you about your Negative Values……….

Negative Values are a subject that most coaches won’t work through with their clients and yet they are crucial to helping you figure out what is holding you back – holding you back from succeeding at your goals and living a life on your terms. More importantly though is once we have discovered your negative values we can then find out your unconscious rules  that control them – and change them!

I’ve put together a quick video blog on YouTube about this subject………..

 

Following the instructions of the video………

To discover your negative values I would like you to answer this question – “What is the feeling that you would do almost anything to avoid having to feel?”

Make a list of your answers, don’t second guess yourself as your first instinctual answers will be right but your conscious mind will try to talk you out of them! Most people will come up with 5-7 answers!

Next……………….

Go through your list and with each one ask yourself “what has to happen for me to feel this way?” – make sure to ask yourself this question several times about each and every negative values as you will have more than one ‘rule’ for each one.

What you now have…………

What you now have is a list of your negative values – the unconscious negative values that hold you back from living a life on your terms. You also have the list of rules that you have unconsciously set up to make those values work – my bet is that some of those rules are really easy to fire! When the rules are really easy to fire you can experience that negative value easily and that will stop you from doing what you want to do!

How scary are negative values and rules?

Now you have found this list of negative values and rules you can understand how you have unconsciously held yourself back – probably for years! Isn’t it time you broke free of those values and rules? When you are ready to break free of them I encourage you to get in touch with me and book in for your free breakthrough session!

Your free breakthrough session………….

In just 30 minutes you can understand how to change those rules around so that it is impossible for you to be able to fire those negative values – and I offer that 30 minute breakthrough session for free!

All you need to do is email me on the address below and title the email “Free Breakthrough Session” and I will get back to you! I personally read all of the messages and aim to get back to you within 48 hours to book your free session in. Here’s my email address…….

graham@priority-consulting.co.uk

or head to the “Contact Me” page and fill in the contact form.

I look forward to hearing from you so that we can get started on helping you live your life on your terms!

Thank you for taking the time to read this post

My very best regards

Graham

Graham Nicholls - Strategic Coaching & Training

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When will you stop ‘having’ anxiety and start feeling better?

Having anxiety is not a choice………………….

I know, from personal experience, that having anxiety is not a choice! I didn’t choose to have anxiety or depression or stress…………. It’s not like I woke up one morning and thought “hmmmm today I think I’ll be really anxious!” It crept up on me over time and then one day it hit me like a speeding train – BANG! I know that nobody in their right mind would consciously WANT to have anxiety!

 

But there is a choice?

When I was diagnosed as having anxiety, depression and stress I had a choice…………. I had a choice to accept it and live with it for the rest of my life and possibly ruining the rest of my life – or I could choose to find out everything I possibly could about these conditions and try to find a way out. This is exactly what I did…………. I spent a long time reading, listening, training, going to seminars and attending webinars to find out everything I could and eventually I found out what worked and managed to rid myself of those horrific conditions.

 

I don’t say this to impress you……………..

I’m not telling you that I managed to rid myself of anxiety to impress you, I’m telling you to impress upon you the fact that you ALWAYS have a choice. Right now in this moment you have a choice… you can keep reading or hit the close button – BUT – before you take that second option make sure you’ve thought it through because making the right choice will make the difference!

 

Start feeling a little better today…………..

Please allow me to ask you a few questions that I would like you to seriously consider and even write down the answers to if you are able:

  • Up until right now you’ve associated yourself as having anxiety haven’t you?
  • How would you really like to feel on a daily basis? Describe it fully! How will it feel? What will you see and hear? Paint a real picture in your mind of how good this is!
  • How many days will you need to feel that way to know that you will never feel anxiety again?
  • Looking forwards – When you get to that many days how do you feel now compared to how it used to be
  • With this in mind how do you feel now about that future you?

 

It’s time to start feeling a little better every day right?

It’s a common theme among people I talk to that they just want to start feeling a little better every day and have some consistency of feeling better……….. will you allow me to help YOU with that? Now that you’ve answered the questions above (and if you didn’t please go and do so because they are MASSIVELY important) you know how you will like to feel – so now it’s time to start that happening!

Book a free 30 minute consultation with me and we will take the answer you have to those questions and build a plan for you to start feeling a little better straight away. Click on the link below right now and select a time that I’m free and that works for you……………

 

http://bit.ly/FreeBooking

 

  • Up until right now you’ve associated yourself as having anxiety haven’t you?
  • How would you really like to feel on a daily basis? Describe it fully! How will it feel? What will you see and hear? Paint a real picture in your mind of how good this is!
  • How many days will you need to feel that way to know that you will never feel anxiety again?
  • Looking forwards – When you get to that many days how do you feel now compared to how it used to be
  • With this in mind how do you feel now about that future you?

 

Answer these questions honestly and fully, write down your answers and then book an appointment for a free 30 minute consultation and we can start getting you to feel a little better every day!

 

Thank you for taking the time to read my post!

I look forward to speaking to you soon.

Graham

P.S. Remember to click the link and book your free appointment now…..

 

http://bit.ly/FreeBooking

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An important lesson in gratitude

Hi there,

This will probably be one of the hardest posts I’ve ever written and I expect it will take me quite a while to write it as there will be some emotions flying around. Last Wednesday, 2nd August 2017 I held a free web presentation on how to start feeling a little better every day. During that presentation I passed on one of the most important things that I pass on to all of my clients……….. the power and emotion of gratitude.

What I said…………………

As I do with all my clients I talked about how consciously feeling grateful every day can help you to feel a little better every day – it’s a scientific fact that the human body, mind and nervous system cannot feel fear (anxiety) and gratitude at the same time.

For this reason I ask people …… if you could, what would you be grateful for in your life right now? It doesn’t have to be something big, it can be something small like being grateful for waking up this morning because some people around the world didn’t and their family and friends have to deal with that.

What happened next…………………

After I finished the web presentation and signed off I spent some time with my wife and then we both headed off to bed. The next morning I rose and went through my usual morning routine and while out jogging with my dog I went through my routine of gratitude……………. Which, of course, starts with being grateful for waking up that morning as many people around the world wouldn’t.

What I wasn’t to know was that on that Thursday morning one of my best friends, the man who was Best Man at my wedding, would not wake up from his sleep. While I was being grateful for waking he was quietly passing away and I would never see him again…… taken at just 45 years of age.

 

Being grateful has never been quite so difficult……………

As I sit here writing this it is now Monday morning, just 5 days since he passed and they have been 5 of the most confusing days of my life as I swing from devastation to remembering the amazing times and memories we created together. The hardest thing of all though has been waking in the morning and being consciously grateful for waking……………. Because my friend, my best man, the man who was like a brother to me did not wake and will not wake.

 

The important lesson in gratitude is this………………

I have seen, first hand, the trauma that his family is going through and my grief is very little compared to theirs. The one thing I know of my friend is that he would tell everyone to carry on with their lives and be grateful for what they have and so that is what I shall do…………… not just for me but for him as well, I will be grateful for every day that comes my way.

 

Rest in Peace Mark Perks…………………….. I am eternally grateful for the memories we created together!

 

 

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Replay: Anxiety: how to start feeling better every day

Hi there and welsome to The Priority Method!

I recently held…………….

I recently held a free, live web presentation entitled – “Anxiety: how to start feeling better every day” and the good news is that I recorded the whole thing so that you can watch it at any time! Click the link below to watch now………

Click Here to Watch

Here’s what I covered……………

During this web presentation I talked about how to start feeling a bit better every day. I offered two easy to use tools / strategies that you can incorporate in to your daily routine so that you start taking control of your anxiety. These two strategies are so significant that you can start feeling a bit better from TOMORROW onwards when you start to use them!

A great Q&A session…………….

I also held a live Q&A session and had some fantastic questions to answer live on the presentation with people typing them in as I answered them. There was some more great info passed over during that as well I can tell you!

Although I’m afraid to say……………

My passion really came out during this presentation as I talk about anxiety and how science has really moved our understanding of it forwards. I am so passionate that sometimes I have to catch myself and reel it in a little but I have a drive to help as many people stop suffering from this horrible condition that it overtakes me sometimes!

Click Here to Watch Now

A couple of freebies………………

During the presentation I also offered a couple of freebies to anyone watching and I’m leaving those free offers open for you when you click through and watch the presentation!

Do you want to start feeling a little better every day?

Yes? Then click through and watch now!

Thank you for taking the time to read my posts!

Graham

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An important lesson in gratitude

Hi there,

This will probably be one of the hardest posts I’ve ever written and I expect it will take me quite a while to write it as there will be some emotions flying around. Last Wednesday, 2nd August 2017 I held a free web presentation on how to start feeling a little better every day. During that presentation I passed on one of the most important things that I pass on to all of my clients……….. the power and emotion of gratitude.

 

What I said…………………

As I do with all my clients I talked about how consciously feeling grateful every day can help you to feel a little better every day – it’s a scientific fact that the human body, mind and nervous system cannot feel fear (anxiety) and gratitude at the same time.

For this reason I ask people …… if you could, what would you be grateful for in your life right now? It doesn’t have to be something big, it can be something small like being grateful for waking up this morning because some people around the world didn’t and their family and friends have to deal with that.

 

What happened next…………………

After I finished the web presentation and signed off I spent some time with my wife and then we both headed off to bed. The next morning I rose and went through my usual morning routine and while out jogging with my dog I went through my routine of gratitude……………. Which, of course, starts with being grateful for waking up that morning as many people around the world wouldn’t.

What I wasn’t to know was that on that Thursday morning one of my best friends, the man who was Best Man at my wedding, would not wake up from his sleep. While I was being grateful for waking he was quietly passing away and I would never see him again…… taken at just 45 years of age.

 

Being grateful has never been quite so difficult……………

As I sit here writing this it is now Monday morning, just 5 days since he passed and they have been 5 of the most confusing days of my life as I swing from devastation to remembering the amazing times and memories we created together. The hardest thing of all though has been waking in the morning and being consciously grateful for waking……………. Because my friend, my best man, the man who was like a brother to me did not wake and will not wake.

 

The important lesson in gratitude is this………………

I have seen, first hand, the trauma that his family is going through and my grief is very little compared to theirs. The one thing I know of my friend is that he would tell everyone to carry on with their lives and be grateful for what they have and so that is what I shall do…………… not just for me but for him as well, I will be grateful for every day that comes my way.

 

Rest in Peace Mark Perks…………………….. I am eternally grateful for the memories we created together!

 

 

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Anxiety Help: An Important Reminder For You

Hi there,

 It’s Graham here from The Priority Method, I just wanted to take up two minutes of your time to remind you that this Wednesday, 2nd August at 7.30pm I am holding a free web presentation entitled……

 

“Anxiety: How to start feeling better every day – without medication”

 

You can book your place by clicking the link below:

 

http://bit.ly/FreeAnxietyWebinar1

 

Within this web presentation you’ll learn how to overcome every day anxiety roadblocks and how to reduce anxious feelings from the moment you wake. I’ll be giving you some clear, easy to use tools to help you start feeling a little better every day.

You will also have the opportunity to ask any questions you have about anxiety and have them answered live within the presentation and I’ll make sure that all questions are answered before we finish!

 

Isn’t that what we all want………………………

Isn’t that what we all want? To feel a little better every day…………. To know that we can wake up each morning and know that we can feel a little bit better than we did yesterday. How would that feel? Just sit and close your eyes for a moment and think how it feels to know that you could feel a bit better tomorrow…………… let your mind consider it for a while………….

 

So when you are ready…………..

When you are ready to find out how to feel a little better each day click on the link below and book your place.

 

http://bit.ly/FreeAnxietyWebinar1

 

I look forward to speaking to you on Wednesday.

Thank you for taking the time to read this message and please go and book your place now.

Graham

 http://bit.ly/FreeAnxietyWebinar1

 

 

 

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Anxiety Recovery: Start brushing your teeth with the other hand

Hi and welcome to The Priority Method – Anxiety Recovery

 

Why are you talking about toothbrushes……………..

Does your life seem to go around in circles? Do you always seem to be following the same cycle perhaps? Or maybe the same patterns just keep getting repeated over and over again? What language do you use to describe anxiety when it rears its ugly head? The truth is that whatever language you use to describe it………… you are absolutely right!!

Help with anxiety 

There’s a reason…………..

There is a reason that anxiety is called a ‘condition’ and that reason is because that’s exactly what has occurred………….. anxiety – the physical symptoms along with the thoughts running around inside – has been conditioned in to your body, nervous system and mind! So when you start to feel those anxious feelings creeping up……… or maybe they dive on you like an excited puppy ………….. it is that conditioning kicking in and repeating the same pattern over and over again.

 

But why toothbrushes Graham?

Which hand do you clean your teeth with? Personally I’m right handed so I use my toothbrush in my right hand! Have you ever tried swapping hands and cleaning them with the other hand? Try it………….. you don’t need you toothbrush just pretend right now that you are cleaning your teeth but with the opposite hand to normal…………. Go on, I’ll wait!

It feels a bit weird doesn’t it? Completely unnatural……….. because you’ve never done it before and your hand is not used to that action. This is what breaking the patterns of anxiety is like……. It is completely unnatural to start with because it goes against the conditioning that is currently within you.

 

Book a free 30 consultation now to discuss this further and find out how to replace the conditioning within you! Click the button below to book yours now!

 

It changes really quickly…………

If you carry on brushing your teeth with the other hand you will find that you get ‘used’ to it very quickly and you’ll be able to use that hand without thinking. This, again, is exactly the same to breaking the patterns of anxiety……….. very quickly your nervous system gets used to the new patterns and starts replacing the older ones.

 

What if I already clean my teeth with both hands?

The reason I decided to write this today was due to a client I had recently who said that they already cleaned their teeth with both hands so the analogy didn’t work for them! I asked them which hand they wiped their backside with? – that broke their pattern and made them smile!

 

It doesn’t matter……………

Which hand you currently brush your teeth with is not important, the analogy is there to make a point that the patterns………… the conditioning…… that is currently within you can be replaced with other patterns quickly through finding new, positive patterns and repeating them until they become conditioned.

 

It’s time to find out more…………

Within your 30 minute free consultation we will start to discover the current patterns and conditioning that is causing you to feel anxious and I’ll give you a strategy to use to start breaking them down. Book your free consultation now by clicking the button below and selecting a time suitable to you.

 

 

Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

I look forward to speaking to you soon.

Graham

P.S. Remember to book your free session so you can start to feel a little better every day!

 

 

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Anxiety: It’s time to get out of your head

Hi and welcome to The Priority Method Anxiety Recovery

 

“Your head will always lie to you, while your heart will always tell you the truth” – Anthony Robbins

 

It’s 2000 years old and still in survival mode……………

The human brain is effectively an operating system that is two thousand years old and, as such, is still in survival mode! That’s why we have a fight, flight or freeze response that is so prevalent and well trained. The problem is that over the last 2000 years the human brain has had to deal with all manner of scary things to deal with……….. many of which would have killed us if we hadn’t learned to deal with them.

 

But times have changed…………….

These days though we don’t have all manner of wild animals hunting us down every minute of the day and yet our brain still works in the same way. Sometimes though it over reacts and fires off your fears when there is absolutely no threat whatsoever……………. This is your brain telling you lies! This is also how anxiety is born, and how it grows in to its own monster.

 

Your heart always tells you the truth……..

A few years ago scientists discovered that we are able to think through our hearts as well as our brains and by bringing the two in to alignment we are able to think clearer and not get confused and fearful because of what the brain is telling us. What they discovered was that if you monitor the electronic output of the brain via an ECG and the heart via an EEG they can be aligned but when you are in a state of fear – or anxiety – they are completely mis-aligned.

 

Will you let me help you?

I’d love to help you learn how to align your heart and brain so that you can always bring yourself out of those horrible feelings of anxiety. I will show you exactly how to do that if you book a free 30 minute consultation / coaching session with me. Click the link below now to book your free appointment and we will start to work through your anxiety and we’ll start creating a plan to help you feel better every day. Click on the link below now to book your free appointment.

 

The added bonus………….

The added bonus to aligning your heart and brain waves and ‘thinking’ from your heart is that it will help you answer any questions or problems you are stuck on. Your brain gets in the way with all its thoughts and filters but you heart will tell you the truth and help you resolve those sticky issues.

 

One more key thing……………….

Aligning your heart and brain takes just 2-3 minutes…………. Imagine being able to drastically reduce your anxious feelings within two to three minutes! I will show you how to do that within your free 30 minute appointment so that you can start using it straight away! Click the link below now to book your free appointment now!

 Thank you for taking the time to read my post and please feel free to read through the other posts as there is loads of fantastic information that I have shared to help you.

I look forward to speaking to you soon.

Graham

 

 

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How to become an anxiety detective!

Hi there and welcome to The Priority Method Blog

 

When do you suffer the most? Do you suffer every day or a couple of times a week or maybe it’s just now and again? What time of day do you suffer the most? Some people suffer more at night while others start feeling anxious when they first wake up ……..

 

It’s time to become an anxiety detective!

The starting point to feeling better on a daily basis is to find out when anxiety grabs hold of you, when does it start, where are you, what are you doing, what are you thinking about…… this gives us the clues to the patterns that control your anxious feelings.

If you have read any of my other blog posts or seen any of my videos then you will know that anxiety is controlled by subconscious patterns that run through your body, mind and nervous system. The key to feeling better is to find those patterns and break them by introducing new, more positive patterns.

 

Would you like some help with the detective work?

As part of my work I offer a free 30 minute consultation / coaching session in which we will start the detective work and find out what patterns are creating your anxiety….. what’s more I’ll even give you a couple of simple tools to use to help you feel a bit better every day! PLUS, I’ll answer any questions you have……….. oh and did I mention it’s free and there’s no obligation to go any further than that session if you don’t want to!

Click the link below now to book your free appointment!

 

Knowledge is only potential power…………

“Knowledge is Power” has long been used as a key statement but the truth is that knowledge is only powerful if you use it and take action. That is the key to being an anxiety detective, when you have found out the patterns you need to take action to start breaking them down and replacing them.

 

Here’s one key thing to do……………..

Take a look at you daily routine, even if you only suffer once or twice a week, take a look at your daily routine and start to notice which parts may be involved in your anxious feelings. If you suffer first thing in the morning what is your routine? Do you wake up, start to feel anxious and then lay there in bed for half an hour letting the anxiousness build? – Change it! Wake up, get up and move before the anxiousness starts………… break the pattern!

Do you suffer at night and find it hard to sleep, do you lay there awake for hours? Think about what you do before you go to bed….. do you drink coffee late or eat late? What do you watch on TV? Do you spend time on a phone or tablet? Change it! Drink something different – water, redbush (Rooibos) tea – don’t eat within 2 hours of your bed time, read, go for a run to tire yourself out….. there’s loads you can do.

 

And when you start it………….

Your routine is key to helping you through anxiety so when you find a routine that works stick with it, keep it the same time after time. There will be a temptation to leave it and go back to old ways – resist that temptation! It takes around 28 days to form a new habit…… keep going!

 

Let’s get you started………

Book you free appointment with me and let’s get started on helping you to feel better every day, we’ll get some of the detective work done and you’ll get some ideas on how to start the process of feeling better. Book now by clicking the link below……………

 

 

Thank you for taking the time to read my posts,

Hopefully I’ll speak to you soon.

Graham

P.S. Remember to book your free appointment now

 

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Anxiety Meds: I could not believe it when I read this!

Hi and welcome to The Priority Method,

As a coach and someone who always wants to keep learning while helping people I spend my spare time doing research in to Anxiety, Depression, Stress and other related conditions. My thoughts are that the more I learn, the more I can help.

What I’ve learned has blown me away……………..

While doing some research recently I found out something that simply blew me away, I had to read it over and over again……….. and then I went to other sources and found out that it was correct and completely unbelievable! Having been diagnosed with Anxiety, Depression & Stress many years ago I know exactly how it feels to suffer and I know the physical symptoms that occur, such as:

 

Headaches, dizziness, heart palpitations, sweating, lack of sleep, feeling sick, loss of memory, concentration issues, shaking, feeling tired…………. And the list goes on!

Here’s what blew me away………………

I decided to do some research in to the medication that people are prescribed for these conditions and how they work, but what I discovered was more to do with the side effects of these medications. You see I was prescribed some medication when I was diagnosed but I never took it so I was unaware of what the side effects might be! Imagine my surprise when I discovered that some of those side effects are:

  • Nausea
  • Headaches
  • Drowsiness
  • Dizziness
  • Insomnia
  • Sweating
  • Tightening of the chest
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Memory problems………………. And the list goes on, and on, and on

 

Unbelievable……………….

What I discovered as I read, and what I’m sure you are seeing as you read through, is that the side effects of the medications are virtually the same as the symptoms of the condition itself…………… what is the point of taking the medication in the first place???????

 

Stop before you do anything…………………

Now I should make this clear right here and now – I am NOT saying you should stop taking your meds! This should ONLY be done in conjunction with your doctor / medical practitioner as there are side effects to coming off the meds as well! If you are not seeing and feeling any benefits from the medication you are taking it could be that you area actually suffering the side effects! So I highly recommend revisiting your doctor and going through your medication carefully with them.

Here’s the truth……………

80% of people on anti-anxiety / anti-depression drugs say that they do not believe that the medication will help them recover! 80%!! This research was done by an eminent body who specialize in anxiety research ………………. Wow!

So when you are ready to move your life forwards and FULLY RECOVER from anxiety it is time to seek a different path than medication!

Will you let me……………….

Will you let me help by offering you a free coaching session? Yes, you read that right! I’d like to offer you are free 30 minute telephone coaching session so that you can start to understand how we will move you forwards towards recovery, plan out your next steps and get any questions answered….. will you let me do that?

Book your free session by clicking the link below and selecting a time that suits you!

Recovery is only a few short steps away and it starts with just 30 minutes of your life at no cost to you whatsoever!

 

Thank you for taking the time to read this post!

Graham

P.S. remember to book your free coaching session now by clicking here!

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