Can Uncertainty be Eliminated?

I’m certain you know what uncertainty feels like to you!

I’m certain you know what uncertainty feels like to you! That experience of not know what is going to happen in the next minute, hour, day, week, month or even year. How do you describe it? Shakey, nervous, excited, unsure, stressed or anxious maybe, no matter how we define it we know what uncertainty feels like – but can uncertainty be eliminated?

The simple answer is no; uncertainty cannot be eliminated although we can take steps to lessen the levels of uncertainty we experience. The reason we cannot remove this from our lives is that we need it, yes that’s right we need it! Our nervous system needs some variety to function correctly, to expand and to grow so that we grow as human beings.

If we were to feel confident and sure of everything all of the time life would get pretty boring wouldn’t it? You like surprises don’t you? Of course, you like surprises – well the excellent type of surprise anyway! What if you knew about everything that was going to happen? No more birthday shocks or unplanned flowers from your husband. Would Christmas be ruined is we added in certainty and took away the surprise element of opening gifts?

But, of course, we are not talking about that type of uncertainty here, are we?

“When nothing is sure, everything is possible” – Margaret Drabble.

There are fundamental ways in which you can reduce the amount of unpleasant uncertainty you experience in your life. Firstly you can take more time to plan your future, making plans and setting goals brings with it some sureness of where you are heading in life and how you are going to get there. Creating a clear vision for what it is you want to achieve gives you some confidence in the future, but it can also bring with it the “what if it doesn’t happen?” uncertainty question.

This is where the next stage is critical; you must take the actions required to get you to where you want to be! Taking action is the point where most people slip up and fall foul of the uncertainty of life. While taking action should be the fun part about getting to our future we can very quickly allow doubts creep in and take over, crippling us of our power.

So how about we look at this a different way? What does the future look like when we replace uncertainty with opportunity and thus set our lives free?

“In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity” – Albert Einstein.

Consider for a moment an area of your life in which you have uncertainty. Instead of focussing on the uncertainty of the situation ask yourself “how can I improve this situation, what do I want it to be and how will I get it there?” – When we focus on the problem at hand that is all we see, the problem. By shifting focus to what we can to resolve the issue, we open ourselves up to the possibility of improving it. Let me give you an example:

It is said that the quality of our relationships defines the quality of our lives and yet many people have a great deal of uncertainty in their closest relationships. You can imagine the level of frustration being uncertain about the relationship you have with your spouse/partner or your children can’t you? Instead of focussing on that level of upset what would happen if you focus on the opportunity that might present itself.

– The opportunity to improve your relationship and make your life better.
– The opportunity to have a massive impact on the people you care about by educating yourself in each situation.
– The opportunity to create a life of happiness and joy for the ones you love most.
– The opportunity to grow as an individual and become the person you were meant to be.
– The opportunity to have the loving, caring and harmonious relationship you desire.

What does the future look like when we replace uncertainty with opportunity and set our lives free? For each of the sentences above place the following at the beginning – “How can I have ……….” and then finish the sentence to ask the question.

Discover how to find the opportunity in any area of your life that you currently feel uncertain. Email me at graham@priority-consulting.co.uk and we can talk about getting you on the right path.

If you are interested in helping others to discover their certainty and their path to a life on their terms, or you want to move your own life forwards then click on the links below to find out more about my courses.

Strategic Life Coaching Certification – Beginner to Pro

Strategic Life Coaching Certification

Strategic Life Coach Certification – Inner Core / Highest Intent

Strategic Life Coach Certification

Thank you for taking the time to read my post, I’m truly grateful.

Best Regards

Graham

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Breakthrough – The Ultimate Journey

Breakthrough – The Ultimate Journey

In just under two hours the someone’s life was changed; her limiting beliefs were broken down and replaced with empowering ones, she discovered her role and purpose in this world, and she was challenged to start making it happen.

Uncovering your authenticity and purpose in the world while removing limiting beliefs and rules – surely this is the ultimate journey! (all in under two hours!)

“Who you decide to be today will determine your tomorrow” Jeffrey Benjamin.

The truth is that breakthroughs happen when you are open to discovering who you are at your core and then challenging the stories that you have told yourself over time. Breakthroughs occur when we follow the three ‘S’ rule of Strategy, Story and State – I recently wrote an article on this, and you can find it by clicking the link below:

Creating Positive Change In Your Life

The most significant journey you will go on in your life will be the one that leads you to discover you – the real you, the authentic you. As human beings, we are created to follow our path, to be who we were meant to be and yet so many of us don’t know that simple fact – who were you meant to be?

Not following our inner core, our authenticity leads to more angst and anguish than most other things in life. When we know, we are drawn to something different, when our heart tells us that there is a better path and yet we ignore it or try to push it away discontent sets into our lives.

It is, most commonly, that we lead our lives for someone else and that we attempt to be who they want us to be that we pull away from who we are designed to be. However, there is one truth that is undeniable – this is our life and not that of somebody else! The highest level of fulfilment in life comes from living our life on our terms and the most significant breakthrough in life is discovering that very fact and acting upon it.

Who are you willing to become? You or some other version of you that someone else decides on and therefore controls?

“We are constantly invited to be who we are” Henry David Thoreau.

Stop trading your authenticity for approval; it’s time you became you! Discovering your authentic self is the ultimate journey, taking action and moving towards that genuine person becomes a joyful experience.

Breakthrough to You – The Ultimate Journey!

Now that you are ready to breakthrough to the real you, to your authentic self please get in touch and we can discuss and book your breakthrough session – email me at

graham@priority-consulting.co.uk

If, however, you are ready to help others discover their authentic inner core self then my course – “Strategic Life Coach Certification – Inner Core / Highest Intent” – will give you the tools and strategies to do just that! Click on the picture below to find out more and sign up today.

Strategic Life Coach Certification

I look forward to either hearing from you soon or seeing you in the course.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post, I’m truly grateful.

My Best Regards

Graham

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Imposter Coach Syndrome – Do you suffer from it?

“I don’t feel like a coach; I feel like an imposter”

“I don’t feel like a coach; I feel like an imposter” is something I hear all the time from new coaches and it is an entirely reasonable feeling. Let me say that part again; it is an entirely reasonable and normal feeling to have!

Learning and understanding tools and strategies that can change people’s lives for the better holds with it an awesome responsibility and with that responsibility comes fear. Yes, fear shows up when we know that we have the capability to do something and then start questioning if we are good enough to do it.

– What if I go wrong and make a mistake?
– What if I can’t help them?
– What if I make them worse?
– I’m not perfect so how can I help others?
– I don’t know enough; I need to take another course, don’t I?

The above are all common thoughts, feelings and questions asked by new coaches and practitioners as they endeavour to determine whether they can make it as a coach.

“The first and most important person you must believe in is yourself” – Toni Sorenson.

Discovering belief in yourself as a coach comes in two parts and each is as important as the next;

Part One: Go through all of the tools and strategies for yourself.
The only way for a Life Coach to truly understand what their clients are going through during the coaching process is to go through all of the tools and strategies for themselves. Knowing what a Values Elicitation feels like, understanding the emotions in discovering and breaking down Limiting Beliefs, Uncovering the unconscious Rules that you have set up for your life are all emotion stretching experiences that you need to go through for yourself. If you struggle to put yourself through these experiences, get yourself a coach or a mentor that will help you through – in fact finding a mentor is one of the best things you can do!

Part Two: Practice more than you ever thought you would need to.
The only way to get better at something and gain competence and therefore confidence is to practice. Yes, you’ll make mistakes because that’s what acquiring a new skill involves; as long as you evaluate and learn from those mistakes you will make yourself a better coach. The more you practice, the more natural you become, and the more natural you become, the better coach you will be.

“If you want to expand your life, expand your references” – Anthony Robbins.

The experiences of our lives create the references of which shape how we feel about future encounters. Using the two points above will give you positive references and therefore generate the belief and knowing that you are a great coach – not an imposter!

There is one more suggestion………..

Before we carry on to my other suggestion I just wanted to take a moment and share my two “Strategic Life Coach Certification” Courses. Both are designed to help you improve your knowledge and coaching skills. To find out more information, click on the pictures below:

Strategic Life Coaching Certification Strategic Life Coach Certification

My final suggestion for overcoming Imposter Coach Syndrome is to get yourself a Coach & Mentor, someone who will help to keep you online, drive you to succeed and help you through those negative feeling and limiting beliefs.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

My Best Regards

Graham

 

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Can confidence be taught?

Confidence………

Confidence is sometimes viewed as a mythical entity, a magical force that only some people seem to have – but is this true or can confidence be taught?

For those who are confident, there seems to be a natural state that they can go it to whenever they wish in any situation. Whereas for the unconfident life can be a tortuous place where fear and anxiety take over and stop them having what they want or being who they want to be.

Confidence brings an ability to connect with other people easily, to build rapport and trust. Being confident gives a sense of certainty that we can achieve what we set out to achieve and be who we want to be – that we can be authentic to ourselves and live life on our terms.

“If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life” – Marcus Garvey.

Can confidence be taught? The more appropriate question to be asked is – can confidence be learned? The simple answer to the question is – Yes, absolutely confidence can indeed be both taught and learned. While not often recognised as such, confidence is an emotion that we feel just like happiness, sadness, joy or gratitude.

How can emotions be taught or learned? I hear you cry; the answer is more simple than it first seems. The majority of people in this world believe that emotions happen to them and not that emotions are controlled by them and should be happening for them.

Emotions, at their core level, are a series of patterns that we, as human beings, run throughout our body, mind and nervous system. Those models of emotion are discovered through study and examination and, once identified, can be controlled and influenced – and confidence is no different.

“When you control your thoughts and emotions, you control everything” – Marshall Sylver.

The real question therefore is – can you be taught how to be confident? Can you learn confidence? The answer is as straightforward as it was before – Yes, you can – and I would love to be the person to teach you!

Confidence

My brand new course has just gone live and within the program, I will show you how to increase your levels of confidence in any area of your life. I’ll show you where to find your self-confidence and how to ‘switch it on’ whenever you need it – and the more you use it the more it will naturally be with you!

Click on the picture above to find out more information and sign-up when you are interested (and I’ve added a coupon to the link so that you get it at a specially reduced price!)

Self-confidence isn’t a mythical state that only some people have, it is something you can be taught and something you can learn – have more confidence when you need it!

Unwavering Self-Confidence – Creating 100% Confidence in You

Thank you for taking the time to read my post, I’m truly grateful – and I hope to see you in one of my courses soon.

Best Regards

Graham

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Creating Positive Change In Your Life

Have you ever considered why people don’t change? Have you ever wanted something new, something better in your life that required a change and yet you just couldn’t make it happen? Have you ever considered why?

Change comes first from making a decision, a real resolution to change and only when that commitment is entirely in place can the process get started. The start of committing to change is gaining leverage over yourself so that you have no other choice, so that every morning when you wake you are looking for the way forward.

What is it that you want to change?
What are your real reasons for wanting/needing the change?

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new” – Socrates.

There are three critical steps to making a change and creating a breakthrough in your life; let’s take a look at each of them in turn:

Step One – Use the right Strategy

If you do not have a strategy, a plan for how you are going to make the change you are never going to find the right route to achieving your goal. Iy’s like setting out on a car journey that you have never been on before without a map or sat nav, there’s a good chance you are going to get lost along the way.

Trying to get fit with a strategy of sitting on the couch all day is never going to work. However, doing the research and deciding on a plan of eating and healthy exercise that will work for you and then evaluate and adjust will increase your success rate exponentially.

Trying to learn a new skill with the strategy of watching a few YouTube videos is unlikely to work. Finding an appropriate course, signing up and taking part and then practising your new skill until it becomes natural to you is a far more efficient and successful way to achieve.

What is the right strategy for a change you want to make?

Step Two – Get rid of the Stories.

It is a part of who we are as human beings to cover our failings with stories as to why we didn’t achieve – we didn’t have enough time, we didn’t have enough money, we couldn’t find the right support or the correct information. These stories hold us back as we buy into them and believe them to the point that we will tell others our story so that they think it as well.

When you break down the stories and get to the truth, you can then take conscious responsibility for that reality and what you are going to do with it. Only when you accept complete conscious responsibility for where you are currently at can you understand the need for change and agree that it is you who must change.

What stories do you tell yourself?

“Responsibility, surely, is nothing more than the ability to respond” – George Zaluki

Step Three – Manage your state.

The physical and mental state in which we do anything is key to our success or failure, if we are in a state of negativity or defeat we will undoubtedly fail. Placing yourself in a positive, productive and empowering state at all times you are working towards your goal of change will increase your chance immeasurably.

Your state is created in three areas; your physical association to what you are doing – what you do with your body produces a relevant emotion and feeling. Approach the task with an energetic and convincing manner, and you will have the impetus to carry on and succeed. Approach it with a tired, down, and low physical state and you will soon give up.

The second area of a state is that which you pay attention to, as the famous quote goes – “where focus goes, energy flows”. Paying attention to what is great in life and all the successes you have previously had produces a significantly increased opportunity for success than focussing on past failures.

Thirdly, your state will be determined by the language you use both internally and externally. Through the questions, we ask ourselves we create meanings, and through the repetition of those meanings, we create beliefs. Asking positive and empowering questions produces dramatically different results to disempowering and negative questions.

“Commitment is doing the thing you said you would do, long after the mood you said it in has left you” – George Zaluki

So to recap; creating positive change in your life depends on the strategy you choose, ridding yourself of the stories and controlling the state you approach the change in.

What change will you make in your life?

When you are ready to make a change in your life discover the secrets through my two Strategic Life Coaching Certification courses. These courses offer you the opportunity to learn and use powerful strategies for change in your life and the lives of others.

Grab one (or both of them) now by clicking on the pictures below –

Strategic Life Coaching Certification  Strategic Life Coach Certification

Thank you for taking the time to read this post!

My Best Regards

Graham

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New Year =>> Real You

Do you live your life for you, on your terms and according to who you are inside? Or do you live your life according to the wishes and desires of someone else?

Many people, in their lives, find that they are not living their life, they are living a life for someone else – their parents, their family, their friends, the spouse or even their children. Living in this manner causes a conflict inside as we fight against our own identity, an identity that we were born with but which we now ignore.

“The strongest force in the human personality is to remain constant with your own identity” – Tony Robbins.

The desire to live according to our own identity is like a gravitational pull; it continually drags us towards our centre, our core and when we fight against that gravitational force we use a tremendous amount of energy. This use of energy drains our emotional wellbeing along with our spirit and soul and, very often, we find ourselves feeling depleted, down, sad or even depressed – and yet we have no idea why!

Discovering your true core identity frees your life energy and allows you to live your life on your terms and only in this place can we genuinely serve those for who we care. Attempting to serve our family and friends by being whom they want us to can only detract from our personality and therefore remove our effectiveness as human beings.

“Our true identity is found when we stop being ‘who we are’ and start becoming who we were created to be” – Anon.

So I ask this question of you today – who were you created to be?

Were you created to live a life according to someone else, or were you created to live your life in the way you choose to live it? Consider the following sentence and finish it as many times as you can while being entirely honest with yourself;

I believe that I was created to be…………………………………………..
I believe that I was created to be…………………………………………..
I believe that I was created to be…………………………………………..

Many people never consciously discover who they are created to be at their core and therefore do not live life to their full potential. If you want to discover your true core or learn how to help others do the same you can now take advantage of my online video-based training course for the reduced price of just £10!

Strategic Life Coach Certification – Inner Core / Highest Intent

Strategic Life Coach Certification

In this fully comprehensive Strategic Life Coach Certification course, I will teach you how to discover your Inner Core Identity, you Map of the World and your Highest Intent in every behaviour you exhibit. PLUS I will teach you how to identify your core Emotional Behaviours and Needs and how that can be truly life changing!

Click on the picture now to find out more or CLICK HERE

Living to who you were created to be at your core sets your mind, soul and spirit free!

Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

My Best Regards

Graham

P.S. remember to click on the picture and get started on your path to your Inner Core & Highest Intent – or CLICK HERE NOW

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It’s a Gratitude time of year

It’s a gratitude time of year – As we approach the end of each year it is the ideal time to discover what you can be grateful for in the past year so that the New Year can be approached in the right manner – without fear!

When we focus on gratitude we remove fear, anxiety and stress from our lives and we can approach what we want to achieve in the following year with a greater freedom of mind. If you could, what would you be grateful for in the past 12 months?

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow” – Melody Beattie.

The power of gratitude is so strong that it removes and conquers the fear within us – this is, in fact, a scientific fact! That’s right, it has been scientifically proven that the human body and nervous system cannot feel gratitude and fear at the same time, imagine setting your goals, targets and intentions for the next year without fear to stop you.

New Years Resolutions or Intentions?

After doing a little research recently I’ve discovered that breaking New Years Resolutions has become a worldwide tradition! In the UK it is often a subject of humour of how quickly people break their New Years Resolutions. If I may suggest, don’t set resolutions….. set your intentions for 2018 and do it from a state of gratitude having discovered what you are grateful for from 2017.

Honesty in Gratitude…….

I have to be honest and say it has been a tough year, one of my best friends passed away suddenly in the middle of the year which really blew me away. Just a couple of days after his funeral we discovered that our dog had cancer! He survived for 6 weeks but eventually, the disease took it’s toll and then took his life. Without a doubt, this was one of the hardest times of my life.

The only thing that got me through both of these events (besides my wonderful wife!) was focussing on the gratitude I had for the time spent with both of them. I have some amazing memories of times with both of them and I will cherish those forever.

Other areas of Gratitude……

I consider myself fortunate that I can always find areas of my life to be grateful for and despite everything that has happened in 2017 there are still things to be grateful for. One of the biggest things to have come into my life in 2017 is the discovery of the Udemy website, a website committed to online learning through the medium of video-based courses.

Firstly I used this website to expand my own knowledge and grow as a person, now I have discovered that there is a massive opportunity to expand my reach as a coach. In September I started to record my own video-based training programmes and upload them to the Udemy site and I’m proud to say that I now have 4 courses fully approved and available.

If you’d like to expand your knowledge in 2018 I’d like to offer you the opportunity to do so for a limited time offer of each course for only £10……. click on the links below to take advantage.

“You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backwards into safety” – Abraham Maslow

Strategic Life Coaching Certification – Beginner to Professional

Strategic Life Coaching Certification

Strategic Life Coach Certification – Inner Core & Highest Intent

Strategic Life Coach Certification

Goal Setting – How to set, prepare and achieve your goals

Strategic Life Coaching

How to completely cure anxiety forever – without medication

Strategic Life Coaching

As a closing thought, I would like to encourage you to take half an hour and consider what you are grateful for from 2017, list them down and then while you are in that place of gratitude start considering what you want to achieve in 2018.

My very best wishes for 2018

Graham

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Discovering & Changing Rules of Negative Values

Hi there and welcome to this latest blog post!

Today I want to talk to you about your Negative Values……….

Negative Values are a subject that most coaches won’t work through with their clients and yet they are crucial to helping you figure out what is holding you back – holding you back from succeeding at your goals and living a life on your terms. More importantly though is once we have discovered your negative values we can then find out your unconscious rules  that control them – and change them!

I’ve put together a quick video blog on YouTube about this subject………..

 

Following the instructions of the video………

To discover your negative values I would like you to answer this question – “What is the feeling that you would do almost anything to avoid having to feel?”

Make a list of your answers, don’t second guess yourself as your first instinctual answers will be right but your conscious mind will try to talk you out of them! Most people will come up with 5-7 answers!

Next……………….

Go through your list and with each one ask yourself “what has to happen for me to feel this way?” – make sure to ask yourself this question several times about each and every negative values as you will have more than one ‘rule’ for each one.

What you now have…………

What you now have is a list of your negative values – the unconscious negative values that hold you back from living a life on your terms. You also have the list of rules that you have unconsciously set up to make those values work – my bet is that some of those rules are really easy to fire! When the rules are really easy to fire you can experience that negative value easily and that will stop you from doing what you want to do!

How scary are negative values and rules?

Now you have found this list of negative values and rules you can understand how you have unconsciously held yourself back – probably for years! Isn’t it time you broke free of those values and rules? When you are ready to break free of them I encourage you to get in touch with me and book in for your free breakthrough session!

Your free breakthrough session………….

In just 30 minutes you can understand how to change those rules around so that it is impossible for you to be able to fire those negative values – and I offer that 30 minute breakthrough session for free!

All you need to do is email me on the address below and title the email “Free Breakthrough Session” and I will get back to you! I personally read all of the messages and aim to get back to you within 48 hours to book your free session in. Here’s my email address…….

graham@priority-consulting.co.uk

or head to the “Contact Me” page and fill in the contact form.

I look forward to hearing from you so that we can get started on helping you live your life on your terms!

Thank you for taking the time to read this post

My very best regards

Graham

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When will you stop ‘having’ anxiety and start feeling better?

Having anxiety is not a choice………………….

I know, from personal experience, that having anxiety is not a choice! I didn’t choose to have anxiety or depression or stress…………. It’s not like I woke up one morning and thought “hmmmm today I think I’ll be really anxious!” It crept up on me over time and then one day it hit me like a speeding train – BANG! I know that nobody in their right mind would consciously WANT to have anxiety!

 

But there is a choice?

When I was diagnosed as having anxiety, depression and stress I had a choice…………. I had a choice to accept it and live with it for the rest of my life and possibly ruining the rest of my life – or I could choose to find out everything I possibly could about these conditions and try to find a way out. This is exactly what I did…………. I spent a long time reading, listening, training, going to seminars and attending webinars to find out everything I could and eventually I found out what worked and managed to rid myself of those horrific conditions.

 

I don’t say this to impress you……………..

I’m not telling you that I managed to rid myself of anxiety to impress you, I’m telling you to impress upon you the fact that you ALWAYS have a choice. Right now in this moment you have a choice… you can keep reading or hit the close button – BUT – before you take that second option make sure you’ve thought it through because making the right choice will make the difference!

 

Start feeling a little better today…………..

Please allow me to ask you a few questions that I would like you to seriously consider and even write down the answers to if you are able:

  • Up until right now you’ve associated yourself as having anxiety haven’t you?
  • How would you really like to feel on a daily basis? Describe it fully! How will it feel? What will you see and hear? Paint a real picture in your mind of how good this is!
  • How many days will you need to feel that way to know that you will never feel anxiety again?
  • Looking forwards – When you get to that many days how do you feel now compared to how it used to be
  • With this in mind how do you feel now about that future you?

 

It’s time to start feeling a little better every day right?

It’s a common theme among people I talk to that they just want to start feeling a little better every day and have some consistency of feeling better……….. will you allow me to help YOU with that? Now that you’ve answered the questions above (and if you didn’t please go and do so because they are MASSIVELY important) you know how you will like to feel – so now it’s time to start that happening!

Book a free 30 minute consultation with me and we will take the answer you have to those questions and build a plan for you to start feeling a little better straight away. Click on the link below right now and select a time that I’m free and that works for you……………

 

http://bit.ly/FreeBooking

 

  • Up until right now you’ve associated yourself as having anxiety haven’t you?
  • How would you really like to feel on a daily basis? Describe it fully! How will it feel? What will you see and hear? Paint a real picture in your mind of how good this is!
  • How many days will you need to feel that way to know that you will never feel anxiety again?
  • Looking forwards – When you get to that many days how do you feel now compared to how it used to be
  • With this in mind how do you feel now about that future you?

 

Answer these questions honestly and fully, write down your answers and then book an appointment for a free 30 minute consultation and we can start getting you to feel a little better every day!

 

Thank you for taking the time to read my post!

I look forward to speaking to you soon.

Graham

P.S. Remember to click the link and book your free appointment now…..

 

http://bit.ly/FreeBooking

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An important lesson in gratitude

Hi there,

This will probably be one of the hardest posts I’ve ever written and I expect it will take me quite a while to write it as there will be some emotions flying around. Last Wednesday, 2nd August 2017 I held a free web presentation on how to start feeling a little better every day. During that presentation I passed on one of the most important things that I pass on to all of my clients……….. the power and emotion of gratitude.

What I said…………………

As I do with all my clients I talked about how consciously feeling grateful every day can help you to feel a little better every day – it’s a scientific fact that the human body, mind and nervous system cannot feel fear (anxiety) and gratitude at the same time.

For this reason I ask people …… if you could, what would you be grateful for in your life right now? It doesn’t have to be something big, it can be something small like being grateful for waking up this morning because some people around the world didn’t and their family and friends have to deal with that.

What happened next…………………

After I finished the web presentation and signed off I spent some time with my wife and then we both headed off to bed. The next morning I rose and went through my usual morning routine and while out jogging with my dog I went through my routine of gratitude……………. Which, of course, starts with being grateful for waking up that morning as many people around the world wouldn’t.

What I wasn’t to know was that on that Thursday morning one of my best friends, the man who was Best Man at my wedding, would not wake up from his sleep. While I was being grateful for waking he was quietly passing away and I would never see him again…… taken at just 45 years of age.

 

Being grateful has never been quite so difficult……………

As I sit here writing this it is now Monday morning, just 5 days since he passed and they have been 5 of the most confusing days of my life as I swing from devastation to remembering the amazing times and memories we created together. The hardest thing of all though has been waking in the morning and being consciously grateful for waking……………. Because my friend, my best man, the man who was like a brother to me did not wake and will not wake.

 

The important lesson in gratitude is this………………

I have seen, first hand, the trauma that his family is going through and my grief is very little compared to theirs. The one thing I know of my friend is that he would tell everyone to carry on with their lives and be grateful for what they have and so that is what I shall do…………… not just for me but for him as well, I will be grateful for every day that comes my way.

 

Rest in Peace Mark Perks…………………….. I am eternally grateful for the memories we created together!

 

 

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