It’s time to de-identify yourself

Language is so important to the way we live our lives, the way we act, the meanings we attach to situations and the way we feel. So today I want to start with a tough question………………


What does the word ‘Depression’ mean to you?


Please understand that you are stronger than you think if you deal with this condition because you keep going. Even on those tough days you have made it through and you are still here to talk about it and that takes a strength that you may not realise!


How do I know?

I’ve been there, I know how it feels and if you’d like to know more about me you can head to the My Story page of my website to find out about my experiences. One of the things that really changed my situation was when I de-identified myself as ‘Depressed’


I am……………………

Those two small words ‘I am’ give your unconscious mind an instruction, as soon as you start to say those words your unconscious mind pricks up it’s ever listening ears and asks “Yes? You are what? Who or What do you want to be?”


What follows is what counts

The first word, or few words that follow ‘I am’ is incredibly key to breaking the cycle of depression. If you say “I am Depressed” guess what you are going to be? Guess how you are going to feel? That’s right, you know the answer………….. but what if ‘I am’ was followed by a different word?


What if you……………

What if you made a conscious effort to say something different each time someone asked you how you are? Now, wait just a second…………….. I’m not talking about words such as “Ok” or “Fine” (Feeling Inwardly Negative Everyday!) I’m talking about positive, strong words.


How about these

  • Strong
  • Happy
  • Joyful
  • Tremendous
  • Excited
  • Exulted
  • Awesome
  • Fabulous
  • Fantabulous (one of my favourites!)
  • Amazingly, fantastically, incredibly full of awesomeness – too far???? Maybe J


Take the time to add some of your own and pick a couple that you can use on a regular basis and start to use them. Will this solve everything? No! Will it start to de-identify you? Yes! And it can start to re-identify you as something and someone else.


How would it feel?

How would it feel if your identity was as a happy person? A joyful person? An excited person?

Remember, you have a strength within you that has got you this far……….. use that strength to de-identify and re-identify yourself.


Who will you identify yourself as??


When is NOW a good time to start identifying yourself in a new way?


The way we use language controls the meanings we decide on which in turn controls the way we feel about any situation………….. use language wisely!!


Until next time



P.S. If you haven’t grabbed your copy of my book yet click the picture of the cover below to get it now!

4 Pillars of Depression & Anxiety

About Graham

Graham Nicholls is a Professional Coach, Author and Expert in Human Behavioural Patterns who helps his clients to make their lives better.
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