Have you ever considered why people don’t change? Have you ever wanted something new, something better in your life that required a change and yet you just couldn’t make it happen? Have you ever considered why?
Change comes first from making a decision, a real resolution to change and only when that commitment is entirely in place can the process get started. The start of committing to change is gaining leverage over yourself so that you have no other choice, so that every morning when you wake you are looking for the way forward.
What is it that you want to change?
What are your real reasons for wanting/needing the change?
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new” – Socrates.
There are three critical steps to making a change and creating a breakthrough in your life; let’s take a look at each of them in turn:
Step One – Use the right Strategy
If you do not have a strategy, a plan for how you are going to make the change you are never going to find the right route to achieving your goal. Iy’s like setting out on a car journey that you have never been on before without a map or sat nav, there’s a good chance you are going to get lost along the way.
Trying to get fit with a strategy of sitting on the couch all day is never going to work. However, doing the research and deciding on a plan of eating and healthy exercise that will work for you and then evaluate and adjust will increase your success rate exponentially.
Trying to learn a new skill with the strategy of watching a few YouTube videos is unlikely to work. Finding an appropriate course, signing up and taking part and then practising your new skill until it becomes natural to you is a far more efficient and successful way to achieve.
What is the right strategy for a change you want to make?
Step Two – Get rid of the Stories.
It is a part of who we are as human beings to cover our failings with stories as to why we didn’t achieve – we didn’t have enough time, we didn’t have enough money, we couldn’t find the right support or the correct information. These stories hold us back as we buy into them and believe them to the point that we will tell others our story so that they think it as well.
When you break down the stories and get to the truth, you can then take conscious responsibility for that reality and what you are going to do with it. Only when you accept complete conscious responsibility for where you are currently at can you understand the need for change and agree that it is you who must change.
What stories do you tell yourself?
“Responsibility, surely, is nothing more than the ability to respond” – George Zaluki
Step Three – Manage your state.
The physical and mental state in which we do anything is key to our success or failure, if we are in a state of negativity or defeat we will undoubtedly fail. Placing yourself in a positive, productive and empowering state at all times you are working towards your goal of change will increase your chance immeasurably.
Your state is created in three areas; your physical association to what you are doing – what you do with your body produces a relevant emotion and feeling. Approach the task with an energetic and convincing manner, and you will have the impetus to carry on and succeed. Approach it with a tired, down, and low physical state and you will soon give up.
The second area of a state is that which you pay attention to, as the famous quote goes – “where focus goes, energy flows”. Paying attention to what is great in life and all the successes you have previously had produces a significantly increased opportunity for success than focussing on past failures.
Thirdly, your state will be determined by the language you use both internally and externally. Through the questions, we ask ourselves we create meanings, and through the repetition of those meanings, we create beliefs. Asking positive and empowering questions produces dramatically different results to disempowering and negative questions.
“Commitment is doing the thing you said you would do, long after the mood you said it in has left you” – George Zaluki
So to recap; creating positive change in your life depends on the strategy you choose, ridding yourself of the stories and controlling the state you approach the change in.
What change will you make in your life?
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