“I don’t feel like a coach; I feel like an imposter”
“I don’t feel like a coach; I feel like an imposter” is something I hear all the time from new coaches and it is an entirely reasonable feeling. Let me say that part again; it is an entirely reasonable and normal feeling to have!
Learning and understanding tools and strategies that can change people’s lives for the better holds with it an awesome responsibility and with that responsibility comes fear. Yes, fear shows up when we know that we have the capability to do something and then start questioning if we are good enough to do it.
– What if I go wrong and make a mistake?
– What if I can’t help them?
– What if I make them worse?
– I’m not perfect so how can I help others?
– I don’t know enough; I need to take another course, don’t I?
The above are all common thoughts, feelings and questions asked by new coaches and practitioners as they endeavour to determine whether they can make it as a coach.
“The first and most important person you must believe in is yourself” – Toni Sorenson.
Discovering belief in yourself as a coach comes in two parts and each is as important as the next;
Part One: Go through all of the tools and strategies for yourself.
The only way for a Life Coach to truly understand what their clients are going through during the coaching process is to go through all of the tools and strategies for themselves. Knowing what a Values Elicitation feels like, understanding the emotions in discovering and breaking down Limiting Beliefs, Uncovering the unconscious Rules that you have set up for your life are all emotion stretching experiences that you need to go through for yourself. If you struggle to put yourself through these experiences, get yourself a coach or a mentor that will help you through – in fact finding a mentor is one of the best things you can do!
Part Two: Practice more than you ever thought you would need to.
The only way to get better at something and gain competence and therefore confidence is to practice. Yes, you’ll make mistakes because that’s what acquiring a new skill involves; as long as you evaluate and learn from those mistakes you will make yourself a better coach. The more you practice, the more natural you become, and the more natural you become, the better coach you will be.
“If you want to expand your life, expand your references” – Anthony Robbins.
The experiences of our lives create the references of which shape how we feel about future encounters. Using the two points above will give you positive references and therefore generate the belief and knowing that you are a great coach – not an imposter!
There is one more suggestion………..
Before we carry on to my other suggestion I just wanted to take a moment and share my two “Strategic Life Coach Certification” Courses. Both are designed to help you improve your knowledge and coaching skills. To find out more information, click on the pictures below:
My final suggestion for overcoming Imposter Coach Syndrome is to get yourself a Coach & Mentor, someone who will help to keep you online, drive you to succeed and help you through those negative feeling and limiting beliefs.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post.
My Best Regards