The loss of the individual

“Each and every one of us is an individual and should be treated and respected as such”

Graham Nicholls

Have you ever been treated like you were part of a herd? Is it your experience that we are grouped together like a flock of sheep in a pen? Do you ever want to break free, stand up and shout “NO, I’m me not anyone else…… I’m an individual!”?

┬áThis may come through as a bit of a rant and I’m not going to apologise for that!

When I am having a conversation with someone I ensure that I am completely present with that person, listening to what it is they have to say and understanding their viewpoint. Whether it be a chat with my wife, a having a coffee with a friend or working with a client, I want to make sure that they know that they are an individual and that what they are saying is important to me.

Far too often in life these days, it seems like we are being herded into groups and our individuality is being taken away. Whether it be advertisers clumping us together or doctors, counseller and therapists labelling us with terms such as depressed, anxious, stressed or angry (and the list could go on).

“To be yourself in a world that is trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.

The truth is that we each have our own personality, every single one of us has had differing experiences since the moment of birth and we all have a unique perspective on every situation due to those experiences. We build up references of meaning in our minds that give us our personality and uniqueness that should never be forgotten or washed away for the sake of a label.

Our personality and uniqueness of individuality should be celebrated and, as human beings, we should seek out that which makes us different. We each have, within us, a core individual identity that defines who we were meant to be and yet so many fight against this identity to simply allow ourselves to ‘fit in’ with everyone else. What if………. what if the way to ‘fit in’ was to be ourselves, to live to our true core individuality? What if we could rid ourselves of the labels placed upon us and free our minds to experience our true selves?

Wouldn’t that be truly, individually amazing?

“If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life” – Marcus Garvey.

Just for a few moments today, as you read this post, stop and consider who you are, what your life experiences and learnings have created and what your core individuality can help you to become.

Who are you?

Thank you for taking the time to read this post (and for putting up with the rant!), I’m truly grateful.

If you are interested in finding your true identity or helping others to find theirs then why not sign up for my course and discover your individuality?

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With gratitude,


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Graham Nicholls is a Professional Coach, Author and Expert in Human Behavioural Patterns who helps his clients to make their lives better.
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