I’m certain you know what uncertainty feels like to you!
I’m certain you know what uncertainty feels like to you! That experience of not know what is going to happen in the next minute, hour, day, week, month or even year. How do you describe it? Shakey, nervous, excited, unsure, stressed or anxious maybe, no matter how we define it we know what uncertainty feels like – but can uncertainty be eliminated?
The simple answer is no; uncertainty cannot be eliminated although we can take steps to lessen the levels of uncertainty we experience. The reason we cannot remove this from our lives is that we need it, yes that’s right we need it! Our nervous system needs some variety to function correctly, to expand and to grow so that we grow as human beings.
If we were to feel confident and sure of everything all of the time life would get pretty boring wouldn’t it? You like surprises don’t you? Of course, you like surprises – well the excellent type of surprise anyway! What if you knew about everything that was going to happen? No more birthday shocks or unplanned flowers from your husband. Would Christmas be ruined is we added in certainty and took away the surprise element of opening gifts?
But, of course, we are not talking about that type of uncertainty here, are we?
“When nothing is sure, everything is possible” – Margaret Drabble.
There are fundamental ways in which you can reduce the amount of unpleasant uncertainty you experience in your life. Firstly you can take more time to plan your future, making plans and setting goals brings with it some sureness of where you are heading in life and how you are going to get there. Creating a clear vision for what it is you want to achieve gives you some confidence in the future, but it can also bring with it the “what if it doesn’t happen?” uncertainty question.
This is where the next stage is critical; you must take the actions required to get you to where you want to be! Taking action is the point where most people slip up and fall foul of the uncertainty of life. While taking action should be the fun part about getting to our future we can very quickly allow doubts creep in and take over, crippling us of our power.
So how about we look at this a different way? What does the future look like when we replace uncertainty with opportunity and thus set our lives free?
“In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity” – Albert Einstein.
Consider for a moment an area of your life in which you have uncertainty. Instead of focussing on the uncertainty of the situation ask yourself “how can I improve this situation, what do I want it to be and how will I get it there?” – When we focus on the problem at hand that is all we see, the problem. By shifting focus to what we can to resolve the issue, we open ourselves up to the possibility of improving it. Let me give you an example:
It is said that the quality of our relationships defines the quality of our lives and yet many people have a great deal of uncertainty in their closest relationships. You can imagine the level of frustration being uncertain about the relationship you have with your spouse/partner or your children can’t you? Instead of focussing on that level of upset what would happen if you focus on the opportunity that might present itself.
– The opportunity to improve your relationship and make your life better.
– The opportunity to have a massive impact on the people you care about by educating yourself in each situation.
– The opportunity to create a life of happiness and joy for the ones you love most.
– The opportunity to grow as an individual and become the person you were meant to be.
– The opportunity to have the loving, caring and harmonious relationship you desire.
What does the future look like when we replace uncertainty with opportunity and set our lives free? For each of the sentences above place the following at the beginning – “How can I have ……….” and then finish the sentence to ask the question.
Discover how to find the opportunity in any area of your life that you currently feel uncertain. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can talk about getting you on the right path.
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Thank you for taking the time to read my post, I’m truly grateful.